The Fear of Replacement Shouldn't Hold You Back
Let me tell you something about myself: I have a fear of replacement. My parents would constantly “joke” that they could send me away or trade me in for a better model of kid all the time when I was younger to keep me in line. That mentality has messed me up in more ways that I can possibly write about, especially in my personal life. I can’t begin to tell you how many times I’ve walked up to my fiance in our own home and said “I expect you to leave me soon.”
However, this is not a pity story.
The reason I bring this up is because almost everyone experiences this fear once in their lifetime. You fear that your partner no longer loves you and is cheating on you. You fear that your job will be replaced with a machine that doesn’t need a paycheck to work. You fear losing one client will set you back and you can’t pay the bills anymore. These are all fears based on replacement, but that shouldn’t hold you back.
People get replaced because they no longer fit the needs required for the relationship, job, etc. There are two ways to combat this: improve yourself or improve your ideal situation.
For example, say you worked at a sales agency and realize that your numbers are going down. If the issue is that you can’t close, you need to improve YOUR own ability to prospect, qualify, and close deals. If the issue is that you’re targeting the wrong people, IMPROVE the targeting methods you use to target the right people.
What I keep finding is that fear and motivation are very intertwined. Fear of failure or the fear of replacement can help give you the self-starter attitude to push forward and become a better businessperson overall. Don’t let one small fear stop you from making your dreams come true.
Happy International Women’s Day everyone.